I’d like to share a comment from a reader who played the #MinsGame in February. She was excited to report the release of a significant number items and sent me the following message:
Hi, Andrea – week one of the challenge – Collected things throughout the week and escorted them out of the house today. 28 items and 40 more pounds gone – YAY!!! Items included blouses/shirts, a mini trampoline, my cross-country skis (I used to have so much fun on), ski poles, a bike rack, an apron, some knick-knacks and empty boxes!! Looking forward to Week 2. -Cindy
While it was awesome how well Cindy was doing with the challenge, what I most appreciated about her message is how she referred to her cross-country skis as something she “used to have so much fun on.” She realized and accepted those cross-country skis don’t mesh with her vision of current or future self. What Cindy was doing is important for all of us who are de-cluttering our spaces and our lives. She is creating space for who she is now and who she wants to be, by letting go of things that represent who she isn’t any more.
No matter what age you are, I guarantee you’ve cycled through a number of roles in your life. For example, I used to be a mother of small children, I used to be an active volunteer in the schools, I used to be an avid cross-stitcher, I used to be a CPA. If I held onto everything that supported these past roles or hobbies, there would be a lot of unnecessary clutter in my house – kids toys, clothing and equipment, notebooks full of volunteer materials, cross-stitch supplies galore and accounting texts and continuing education materials. A few of these things remain, such as some special toys we’re saving for grandkids someday, some cross-stitch supplies for small projects and even two college accounting texts that I’ve actually referenced a number of times over the years. The key is only holding on to what I’m using now or what supports who I am becoming.
Karen Kingston in her book Clear Your Clutter with Feng Shui states, “Good things cannot easily come into your life if you block the flow of energy by persistently clinging to outdated clutter.” I couldn’t agree more. When we hold onto the past there’s not only less room for stuff that supports the present and the future, there’s not enough room for energy to flow. You not only deserve to have usable space in your home, you deserve the flow of positive energy throughout it.
As you look around your more cluttered spaces what do you see? Do you see items that represent a past you, or do the items you see support who you are now or point towards who you’re becoming?
One easy way to tell is to listen to your language as you sort through your clutter. For example, as you’re sorting through the clothing in your closet, are you saying “I love to wear this shirt” or “I used to love this shirt.” “I can’t wait to wear that skirt this summer!” or “I remember wearing that skirt when I was in college (15 years ago).” When you go down into your basement do you see what remains of the scrapbooker you used to be or the stack of games you remember playing when your kids were young? What might letting go of the “used to” or the “I remember” do for your space and the energy in your space? What choices could you make to honor who you are now and make room for who you are becoming? I’d love to hear your thoughts and suggestions.