This “one less” question is a question my ADHD coach introduced me to years ago in response to my tendencies towards ADHD math, which is the tendency of an individual with ADHD to continually add things to one’s life without ever subtracting anything, which as you can imagine leads to all kinds of overwhelm. Thinking in terms of one less results in greater simplicity and ease, especially when it comes to cooking a holiday meal.
Responding to the “one less” question resulted in a number of things being edited from the menu and it turns out that no one really missed them. It also resulted in fewer leftovers and less food wasted in the end. This year, it even resulted in a turkey being edited from the Thanksgiving menu in favor of a main course that everyone at the table is much fonder of at this point in time.